How to Last Longer in Bed

Mar 4, 2025 • Masturbation, Pleasure

Right, let’s say you’ve finally got a gorgeous woman naked in your bed. The sexual tension has been building all evening, she’s been flirting with you non-stop, and now it’s go time.

You get started, enjoy a few deep thrusts, and before you know it… bam, game over.

Now you’re lying there, out of breath, while she stares at the ceiling, wondering if she should fake a bathroom emergency or just scroll Instagram until you pass out.

If this sounds a little familiar, don’t worry—you’re not the only one to blow their load early on more than one occasion. Premature ejaculation (PE) is stupidly common. In fact, 30-40% of men struggle with finishing too soon at some point in their lives.

So, what’s the solution? How do you last longer in bed and keep up with a woman who wants more than a 60-second sprint? Well, read on to find out…

Why Do Some Men Finish So Quickly?

Premature ejaculation isn’t just about being too excited (though, yeah, that’s definitely part of it). It’s a mix of physical, psychological, and behavioral factors that make it feel like your penis is on a permanent hair-trigger.

Some common culprits:

Overstimulation – You get so turned on that your body just says, Nope, we’re done here.
Performance anxiety – Ironically, worrying about finishing too fast makes you finish too fast.
Bad habits from masturbation – If you’re used to jerking off like a teenager before your mum walks in, your body has trained itself to finish at lightning speed.
Sensitive nerve endings – Some guys just feel more than others.
Hormonal imbalances – Low serotonin levels can mess with your stamina.

The good news? No matter the cause, you can fix it. How, you ask? Well, first off…

1. Master Your Foreplay Skills

Sex isn’t a sprint to the finish line. So why are you acting like you’re trying to break the world record for fastest finish?

Slow it down. Instead of getting straight into the penetration, spend more time teasing, touching, and exploring her body. Not only does this build anticipation, but it also gives your own body time to relax and reset your arousal levels.

We reached out to Elite Society, a provider of high-class London escorts, and spoke to Melena, who put it perfectly:

“Men always rush into full penetrative sex like it’s the most important part of the experience, but the best lovers know that foreplay is where the real fun happens. All too often, men spend money to meet me and end up finishing within the first 10 minutes. I say make the most of the experience. The more time you spend kissing, teasing, and playing with me, the longer you’ll last when you finally get inside me.”

2. The Edging Technique

Ever heard of edging? No, it’s not some weird yoga move—it’s one of the best tricks for building stamina.

Here’s how it works:

When you start to feel close to finishing, slow down or stop completely.
Focus on something else—her body, kissing her, literally anything but cumming.
Once the urge dies down, get back to it.

You can do this during sex or even during solo sessions to train yourself to last longer. It’s all about reprogramming your body to delay orgasm instead of rushing to it. Also, the longer you edge, the stronger and more intense your orgasm will be when you finally do finish.

3. Switch Up the Pace

If you’re pounding away at jackrabbit speed, of course, you’re gonna finish fast. Instead, slow things down.

Try long, deep strokes instead of short, rapid ones. Take breaks to kiss, change positions, or let her take control for a while.

One great trick?

Try a thrusting rhythm like this: 5 slow strokes, then 3 fast ones, then back to slow. Keep mixing it up so your body doesn’t get into a pattern that triggers ejaculation too soon.

4. Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor

Yes, Kegel exercises aren’t just for women. A strong pelvic floor can give you better control over your orgasms and help you last much longer.

How to do it:

Find your PC muscles (the ones that stop your pee mid-flow).
Squeeze them for 3-5 seconds, then release.
Do this 10-15 times per session, 3 times a day.

It might sound ridiculous, but studies show that men who do Kegels last significantly longer in bed. Plus, it helps with stronger erections, so it’s a win-win.

5. Try a Numbing Condom (Or Just a Thicker One)

Condoms already reduce sensitivity, but if you really struggle with finishing too soon, try one designed to delay ejaculation.

Some top options:

Trojan Extended Pleasure – Has a mild numbing agent to reduce sensitivity.
Durex Performax – Helps you stay hard without over-stimulating.
Pasante Infinity – A thick condom that naturally makes you last longer.

If you hate condoms (we get it), you can also try a delay spray like Promescent, which slightly desensitizes the tip of your penis without making you go completely numb.